The traditional conservative world only approved of heterosexuality as the normative identity. However, I have adopted new behaviors with new trends and changes, creating a significant difference between my new and old lifestyle (Lorber 4). As the eldest female daughter in a conservative family, my life was defined by gender-based constraints such as restricted mobility, fixed identity, and conformity to superior forces (Averett 190). I was taught obedience was paramount, which made me submissive to every man. However, after becoming a teenager, I adopted masculine behaviors, such as defending myself, feeling attracted to women, and handling manual jobs. Environmental influences such as traditions and modern experiences promoted different behaviors. However, defying the cultural beliefs by embracing the new norms led to stigmatization and ideological conflict with family, significantly limiting happiness.
Living in a patriarchal society meant that I had to respect my elders and particularly men. Women were considered weak and expected not to stand up for their rights. My analysis of this deprivation is that the system is sickening, considering most women and girls suffer in silence due to such rules (Lorber 4). In my sophomore year in high school, I identified as bisexual, a decision I consider one of the best in my life (Kane 1). The reason is that this new path gave me the freedom to express myself for who I am and not what society wanted me to become.
However, these decisions have had significant negative effects, such as stigmatization and conflict with my family members. I have experienced discrimination since people who identify as heterosexual consider ambisexual individuals as those facing mental health illnesses (Averett 189). My relationship with my father has also been tainted, considering that he is a conservative who disregards my orientation since it defies our religious and ethnic beliefs. Therefore, there is a need to create awareness of the interventions to break the negative stereotypes that tie individuals to specific gender orientations due to their identity.
Averett, Kate Henley. “The Gender Buffet: LGBTQ Parents Resisting Heteronormativity.” Gender & Society, vol. 30, no. 2, 2016, pp. 189-212.
Kane, Emily W. The Gender Trap. New York University Press, 2012.
Lorber, Judith. “Night to His Day”: The Social Construction Of Gender.” Paradoxes of gender. , vol. 1, 1994, pp. 1-8.